Monday, January 13, 2014

So close

Hi everyone! It has been WAY too long since I've given an update. We have literally hit every single speed bump you can imagine. It's so hard knowing our son has been sitting there waiting for months longer than necessary because of meaningless paperwork fiascos. 

Not only did we wait 134 days for LOA, but then directly after that we had the post office lose two different VERY important packages that were sent out. One was our visa applications which included our hard copies of our passports AND Gideon's chinese passport. The other was our Immigration application to adopt Bishop. Without getting into too many confusing details about the process, let me just tell you we were supposed to be saving two weeks on that step which turned into one week after the mail was lost and then our documents were "missing" in the building once delivered. Oh boy! As you can imagine, that was a LONG week! Luckily both packages were eventually found. We now have Visas in hand and our immigration approval has been granted! Thank you God!

But that's not it...we were then delayed an additional 4 days due to a snowstorm in the place that had to process our next step. My oh my! And now, the step that usually takes exactly two weeks is taking almost three for us due to MLK day pushing us back. Our agency has requested an expedite, but it's not guaranteed. We are very hopeful though.

We just keep reminding ourselves how special Bishop must be for the amount of fight it is taking to get him home. Of course, we knew that from the beginning ;)

Now I know many of you may be thinking that 4 days here or there is no big deal, but to put it in perspective...We were matched with Bishop when he was just 10 months old. At the time, it was completely reasonable to think we would have traveled by the time he was about 14 months old. Heck, we even have friends that were matched the same day and they have been home with their child for months. 

Well, Bishop is almost 16 months old now and we could potentially still have another 6-8 weeks or so before we travel :( It's a hard pill to swallow.

All that being said, we know that we serve a God who has shown us time and time again that His timing is perfection, not ours. So we hold onto that truth as we wait for the day that He allows us to be together. We are already there in our hearts. Now we just need him in our arms. 

We have so much that we simply can't share right now that we've been able to find out about our sweet boy. None of that would've happened had it not been for this excruciating wait. That is God's providence. 

So right now, we have been spending time coordinating itineraries and figuring out how to NOT overpack like I did last time. I'm starting super early just to try to avoid another meltdown in China over luggage. I know Ryan is happy to help with that too Bwahahaha! Yikes!

We pray for Bishop daily, actually multiple times daily. Even our precious Giddy includes him in his prayers. He often talks about how we are going to go to China to bring Bishop home. Melts my heart.

We pray that God has sealed up all of the love he's received in his little life so far. We know he is healthy and is getting the care he needs. But we also know that being fed and bathed and placed in a crib for bed at night is not ALL a child needs. He needs the love of his forever family. He needs us to speak truth over him time and time again to remind him that we will love him forever and take care of him forever, that we will never leave him. He needs a mama to kiss his boo boos and rock him to sleep at night. He needs a baba to run around the yard with. He needs a big brother to play cars and trucks with. That is what is missing in his little life right now. A mama. A baba. A big brother. All of whom can't wait to meet him and welcome him home. Forever.

We are so close, Bishop. Hang on baby!


  1. Sweet Melissa, I know how your heart must ache to hold sweet Bishop .I will pray you get to hold him soon. We just received PA for our daughter and now the wait. We are almost DTC and trying to get that done before Chinese New Year.

    1. What exciting news for your family! Congratulations! I hope and pray you don't have any of the crazy hold ups we have endured this time around. I will surely be following along!

  2. Melissa, I don't know what blesses my heart more... seeing your incredible love & commitment in adopting 2 little boys who otherwise would have been shelved in Chinese govt facilities with little or no expectation of familial love... or finding out that you have grown to become such a beautiful young woman of faith. I have a dear Christian friend who, like you, was also unable to conceive so turned to adoption. She just brought home her 2nd daughter from China & we celebrated her dedication this past Sunday. I have shared with her, your journey of adoption from when you first went to China to bring home Gideon. We are so excited for you & will continue to hold you up in prayer while you wait to bring home little Bishop.

    1. Thank you so so much for your kind words. We have been so blessed by adoption. We just know that this is the way God always intended for us to grow our family! We are so excited to get Bishop home. Please continue praying for our family. I have a feeling it's going to be a rough transition for Gideon.

  3. Melissa, My husband and I are in the process of our second adoption from China as well. You mentioned getting a Visa on Gideon's Chinese Passport. We were warned not to do that, because it can cause trouble when you get ready to leave China. You may want to discuss it with your placing agency. It may be worth the hassle to get him a US Passport.

    So happy for your family- you're wait will be over soon. I will pray for a Feb. 10 gotcha day. God Bless.

    1. Thanks so much for reaching out Lori. We actually DO have a US passport for Gideon, but you also need to send their original Chinese passport in with your visa applications to have it voided. They will return it to you. Thanks for the prayers. Please keep them up!